Browse Behaviors

Fully focusing on, understanding, and responding to what someone is saying without interrupting or judging.

Redirecting responsibility for one's actions or mistakes onto someone else, avoiding accountability.

Sending sporadic, minimal messages or gestures to keep someone interested without any intention of committing.

A pattern of behaviors used to dominate and control a partner through fear, isolation, and intimidation.

A manipulation tactic where the person Denies the behavior, Attacks the accuser, and Reverses Victim and Offender roles.

Using technology to control, monitor, harass, or intimidate a partner.

Using fear, obligation, or guilt to coerce someone into doing what you want.

Using money and financial resources to control or manipulate a partner, limiting their independence.

Making elaborate promises about a shared future with no intention of following through, to keep someone invested.

A pattern of manipulating someone into doubting their memory, perception, or reality.

Making someone feel guilty to get them to do something or to control their behavior.

Expressing disagreement or frustration directly and respectfully, focusing on the issue rather than attacking the person.

Attempts by an abusive or toxic person to suck you back into a relationship after you've distanced yourself or left.

Unpredictably alternating between warmth and coldness to keep someone off-balance and emotionally hooked.

Systematically cutting someone off from friends, family, and support networks to increase control over them.

Feeling or expressing possessiveness, suspicion, or insecurity about a partner's interactions with others.

Overwhelming someone with intense affection, attention, and gifts early in a relationship to gain control and create dependency.

Expressing negative feelings indirectly rather than openly, through behaviors like sarcasm, silent treatment, or sabotage.

Any physical act that causes fear, harm, or injury, including intimidating physical behavior.

Accusing someone else of the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors you yourself are experiencing or doing.

Accepting and honoring another person's limits, needs, and autonomy without pushing back or retaliating.

Clearly communicating your needs, limits, and expectations while respecting those of others.

Deliberately refusing communication to punish or control another person, rather than taking healthy space.

Refusing to engage in communication or emotionally withdrawing during conflict.

Bringing a third person into a relationship dynamic to create rivalry, jealousy, or to manipulate one party.

Using words to harm, control, intimidate, or demean another person.