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Controlling Behaviors

Coercive Control

A pattern of behaviors used to dominate and control a partner through fear, isolation, and intimidation.

Severity

✅Healthy end

Respecting a partner's autonomy, privacy, and independence.

❌Unhealthy end

Systematically stripping away a person's freedom and independence through fear and control.

Examples

Monitoring your movements and demanding to know where you are at all times

Controlling finances so you can't make independent decisions

Isolating you from friends and family

Dictating what you can wear or who you can see

Common Signs

Monitors your phone, location, or social media
Controls money and resources
Isolates you from support networks
Makes threats to maintain compliance
Micro-manages daily decisions

Often Confused With

Concern or careProtectiveness

Educational Note

Coercive control is a recognized form of abuse. It may not involve physical violence but can be deeply damaging. If you recognize these patterns, professional support is important.

What You Can Do

  • 1Reach out to a trusted person or support service
  • 2Document concerning behaviors
  • 3Contact a domestic abuse hotline for guidance
  • 4Develop a safety plan if needed
Relationship Behavior Guide

This tool is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you or someone you know feels unsafe, please contact a local support service or crisis line. You deserve support and respect.